Friday, October 18, 2013

In Praise of Multi-Generational Homes P4

Contemporary Application and Fallout

Where do we go from here?

I have argued, either convincingly or unconvincingly, that a Christian perspective will properly evaluate, encourage, and praise multi-generational households as a viable expression of the glory of God in accepting the roles and realities of individuals in varying stages of life. Discipleship is not the ultimate end, but it is a proximate one. And it is one that finds a multi-generational context profitable. However, I am an amateur in sociology. Therefore, the first application is for a sociologist to study and evaluate the benefit of multi-generational homes and to encourage their establishment. If you know a Sociologist Ph.D. student, encourage them to do so.

The second point of application goes to the middle generation. Teach your teenagers that living with your parents in your twenties does not mean you have failed. Explain to them the benefits of living at home, but give them some privacy as well. If they are to come and live with you, they are choosing to do so as adults; respecting you, yes, but they are not immature children anymore. Perhaps you will have to pursue a building project with them: creating enough space for them to bring a spouse into. Consider the older generation as well: they are not a burden, they are an eternal soul developed by our gracious God to have influence on the world they still inhabit.

The third point of application may be the most difficult to accomplish. It belongs to the young generation. Young adults, you will be told by the culture around you, even friends and family members, that real adults get a job and move out to be on their own. Perhaps I am wrong and they are right, but either way you cannot make your decision subject to prevailing philosophy of culture. Evaluate the possibilities; pursue knowledge of God; pray for humility. It may seem humiliating, but humiliation is a quick path to humility; take comfort in knowing that God looks to the humble and contrite in spirit. The economy may be the only reason that you choose to live at home until your 25, but sometimes God uses external and ‘unrelated’ means to bring about his desired ends.

See Part 1: The Problem
See Part 2: Questioning Cultural Assumptions

See Part 3: A Perspective